Does anyone else out there struggle receiving compliments? Don’t get me wrong, I love hearing them in my soul. They make me feel so good. It’s almost like every one you get, it is a helium balloon tied to your thoughts…it just keeps lifting them up. And when you’re not used to hearing compliments in a while, it’s like 5 balloons at once. It is the best feeling.
But nevertheless, after someone gives me a compliment I almost always say something self-deprecating and then I convince myself they only told it to me to be nice. I mean, they couldn’t possibly mean it.
I mean, why do we do this to ourselves? I read a tweet the other day that said, “Rejecting a compliment is like asking for it twice.” WHOA. It’s kinda right. So then you have to ask, why do we do that to the people giving you the compliment?!
On Friday a co-worker complimented my dress and instead of just saying “thank you” and smiling, I replied with “Thanks, it’s not flattering at all and makes me look huge with the stripes, but it’s comfy.” To which, she had to say, “No, I think it’s cute!” WHY DO I DO THAT?! I was not nice to myself and then I made her say it twice. Bleh.
I have to get better at this. There should be some kind of training on being better at receiving compliments without attaching strings and conditions.
Anyway, those are my thoughts this week. 🙂
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2 thoughts on “I really like your dress!”
I feel you completely on this one. I still do the same, even though I have promised myself that I won’t do it anymore. Friend of mine, when she gets a compliment, usually answers with “oh, I know, isn’t it amazing”. Maybe we should try it too 🙂
I have the same problem with compliments . I respond with “ oh I got this on sale. Only $10” or whatever. I read an article about this very subject once and how it makes us uncomfortable. We should just smile and say “thanks”
I don’t know why it’s easy for me to give compliments but very hard for me to receive them.
Keep on writing girl, I love to read your blogs!!! ❤️